Always give the benefit of the doubt There may be people who are out to ruin you but there are also some who are after your best interest. In the end, I decided to take a different tack. Then I ask them to raise their hand if they are one of those people, and, of course, hardly any hands ever go up. That said, 2016 has been an interesting year, and the beginning of 2017 I think is a good opportunity to think about how to be intentional about my behavior in all aspects of my life. How does assuming positive intent make a difference? The way John presented the information seemed completely plausible, and my instinct to solve the problem immediately kicked in: I need to talk to Gargamel's boss and sort out what's going on. Sometimes, the routine setbacks and challenges we face can be turned into golden opportunities.
Practice seeing others as human, just like you. Other challenges demand a moderate response — or no response at all. If you and I ever have a disagreement, no matter how bitter, then I want you to know that I regularly remind myself of all the things we do agree on, in attempts to put our differences into perspective. I would automatically, on a gut level, assume that the other person must be malicious. Some people seem to wait in the wings as if watching a game show. Getting defensive is my greatest personal weakness.
He was in my office, complaining about someone. You almost ate me alive. When you accuse another person of bad intentions, you create defensiveness. We seem to focus on everything wrong that happened instead of being happy with the positive ones. I also like to help people solve problems.
Communities often have to deal with actors that in fact have ill intentions, and in that case it's often worth the damage to prevent an even greater exploitation by malicious actors. You never hear a positive word. Whether or not someone's actions have good consequences is an entirely separate issue. Would you like help in learning more about maturing in? I began to realize that nobody--including myself--was really taking the time to understand the motivations of their colleagues. He is currently Chief Customer Officer at PubNub where he oversees all customer-facing activities.
Further exploration revealed that his wife felt threatened in many areas of their relationship. The person playing the game is trying to answer the host of the show, hoping to win big. Successful leaders always assess the angles. Once again a bunch of hands go up. Assess the situation carefully and avoid jumping into conclusions without solid proof. Working Conversations offers a free series of videos on effective workplace communication, The Working Minute, with tips on communicating better, delivered in just about a minute.
Yet, for all the effort, the innocent party will be unable to steer clear of offending their mate. But if one of us starts believing that the other is acting adversarially, the whole framework of discourse breaks down, and we frequently can't get anywhere. I listened to my employees and thought about what to do for a few minutes. Thank them for their feedback. People comment on social media all the time and more often than not, they do it for the simple reason of just wanting to have fun and there you are, getting all emotional because of a meaningless tweet.
This advice applies only to criticisms of intent, not to criticisms of judgement, belief, or action. I gain a greater understanding and perspective of a situation. On a team that had always modeled transparency and authenticity, I could see members of the team being forced to defend and position themselves in their verbal and written communications. This post is nominally addressed to those friends, though I believe it also contains ideas that are useful in general. Similarly, Gargamel thought he understood Dr. Once you learn the details, you may get to see that the team member was indeed committed, competent, and on top of the situation.
With that, Jarad turned away and looked out my window. When you look for positive intent, you give people the benefit of the doubt and you give yourself the chance to learn the details of the situation. David Stewart is a member of the Air National Guard. At this point, I had to laugh at the irony of the situation. What does it mean to assume positive intent? Use of his military rank and job titles does not imply endorsement by the Department of the Air Force or the Department of Defense. This is doubly true if they appear to be gaining status, prestige, or power by stomping on things that I think are important. The obnoxious sound signals the end of the dream.