You don't have to share your bed with a 190-pound, 6-foot-3 blanket hog. And when you get into a relationship, the price tag jumps even more. Taking the time to understand who you are as a person, and appreciate those qualities will make you happier overall — and it will help you discover what it is you want from another person when you decide you're ready for it. Some will overlook these issues and jump into a relationship anyway. One of the things that singles don't like is that they can't predict the future. It can also mean that you have more time and energy to put into your existing friendships.
Then raise your glass and make a toast to being single and living it up! Or learned a new language? This will make you an invaluable partner, as you will know yourself well, and will not bow down to make other people happy. But if you can get past your emotions and self-pity, you quickly learn to suck it up and just get it done. On the weekend you can wake up whenever. Being in a relationship typically requires you to share your decision-making with another person. To avoid having to grieve the experience of someone you like turning themselves into the reincarnation of Houdini, you should feel fine or not being on them. You don't have to pretend to laugh at unfunny jokes or be secretly embarrassed about something he wears.
You Can Differentiate Between Sex and Love This skill—often developed with age—saves you a lot of time and energy. You're not dealing with psychos or their psycho exes who just can't get over it. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them. Rome wasn't built in a day. A relationship with only one partner willing to do the work ceases to be a relationship. Other people will pick up on it and want to be around you even more than they already do.
Independence is an extremely attractive and gratifying trait. You understand the value of time and know how you want to spend it. All of these skills will be invaluable to you both as a singleton, and as someone in a relationship. Loneliness, is often the best cure for a broken heart. A qualified professional can give you strategies to cope with your frustration, and may also be able to provide you with a fresh perspective on your situation.
Your sex life is consistent. It's their loss, not yours. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or a center for abused women. No need to stock any amber liquor just because he wants to drink it straight and pretend he's Hemingway or whatever. Regardless of your situation and reason for being single, it's important for you to identify what being single means to you, especially if you do see yourself in a relationship in the future. Being single comes with the unrivaled freedom that a number of people in relationships do not have. These issues are best addressed while being single, before you go looking to get into another relationship.
It's okay to spend a Saturday night alone with yourself and a movie and a glass of wine. It can also feel like everyone around you is trying to rush you into a relationship when you're solo. While single, practice saying what you actually mean, and being honest with yourself and others. Everyone is perfect in their own way. By being single, you can think more clearly and rationally in order to make important life decisions.
It's all about your attitude. Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Way , which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on. You Have a Roadmap for Life If you get married, have kids, or make the decision to remain childless before your 30s, you might be the first member of your inner circle to do so. You do not have children; you never intended to. When you rely on or expect your happiness to come from external sources, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Sure, the honeymoon phase of a relationship seems fun and all. The intensities of friendship suit you better.
Sustained romantic intensities have not been for you. Telling your friends retrospectively hilarious stories from your dates. From there, you make the decisions that mold you into the person you want to be. You have time to hang out with your friends. You can take as long as you want to get ready for something without having a guy in the next room yelling the time at you. Typically at 40, you have already established your career.