I really sympathise with how you both feeling and anyone else who reads this thread. I think thats what made me angry. It will take time and one day at a time but it will get better. I know that my boyfriend puts on this bravado act but underneath is a rather fragile person. Common ground will shrink the distance between you. I suspect depression is not pushing your boyfriend away , if he's a decent enough guy and he sounds to be he let you sort this in your own time and let you speak when you know the answers and feel comfortable. He would never dream of leaving his son, in fact, is always telling me about family responsibilities and how important they are to him he was widowed early in life and so has brought up his children alone.
My book shows step-by-step how to create a solid, secure partnership — the kind that gets better with time! We fell in love very quickly and spent every minute we could together,eventually moving in together properly in October last year. Don't think that you are selfish. It might be your decision to make about whether or not you're happy or she's a good girlfriend, but if she's anything like me then it's hard to let people make that decision when you know how horrible you can get. I feel so reassured that someone understands exactly what I'm going through and the feelings that I am feeling during this time. He always wanted to spend time with me. Good moments and bad moments. As a survivor of suicide myself, my heart goes out to those that have lost someone due to this.
The past week my insecurities got better of me cause felt him pulling away after not seeing or speaking to him which resulted in him having a go at me saying how in past he left alot of things in back burner. If your post or comment is not appearing, it may have been removed for a rule violation or it may simply be stuck in the spam filter. It's just so hard to watch someone you love feel so dreadful and not being able to be there for them. The other day he said that maybe we need some time apart to help him, he then admitted that he knows he is pushing me away with how he is being towards me but says it is just the meds. Still, we love you in this community and we can help you to understand and stay strong. Will my boyfriend come back to me after he has cycled out? We're not out of the woods yet, but at least we're working towards building a path way to walk on, to get us there. Write yourself love notes and find a fulfilling life.
What I am about to say is just a suggestion, I hope that he can read some of this 'printed material' because it will show him that he's not alone, and then make an appointment with his doctor. I like to think that I'm very understanding. I have waited and hoped that he would live up to the potential I know he has as whatever he wants to be. Everything was ok up until about 5 days ago when all of a sudden he kind of just shut down, told me he wasnt ready for a long term relationship and that he wasnt 'relationship material'. As he continued to text, it was clear he was drunk again he self medicates with alcohol! I feel more comfortable showing him that side of myself now. I am worried he isn't going to talk to me again.
Any advice would be appreciated Hi Daisychains2, Unfortunately I'm also going through a very similar situation at this moment. But I've never been depressed so it's hard for me to understand. Remember, you are a normal person and will get over a relationship. Either you stay with him and you both stick it out, or you walk away - how long can you go dipping in and out of a relationship with an uncertain future? Now I've read around a few forums and blog posts I do sort of understand the rationale behind it. Be the best man you can be.
I don't want the relationship to end, but I really don't know how much longer I can take this. Hi all I'm not exactly sure why I'm posting this. I am just try to think what it could be so that you can at least sort things. That's just how it makes sense to me. I asked him what he wants me to do. He just went to a bar with some friends.
This makes him sound awful and I feel guilty and disloyal to reveal this side of him, but this is not him really, only sometimes. That could very well be why she's still messaging you a lot, cos she hides it with her friends and that can be exhausting and stressful, but with you she can just let it out. Learning how to deal with a depressed boyfriend involves knowing your boundaries as a girlfriend. We hit it off instantly. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Most of the time it was me initiating. If they knew how to be any other way, they would be.
Let her experience true loneliness even as Valentine's day is coming up. Hope everyone has a good week. Become an effective communicator and get positive results. I am retired, have a very nice home, grown children and grand children. She says she wants space but reaches out to you. I think I'm scared that the longer we spend apart, the more likely the chance that she will forget me and move on. I finally gave up, he was completely shocked and worked hard for about a year to try and make me change my mind but the damage was done, the trust completely destroyed.
Few things are as powerful as human connection and anything you can do to nurture that will help to put back what depression strips away. Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression, allergies. Those who suffer depression can lose the forest for the trees, as it were, and they have so much to worry about that it can be easy to not realise how strained relationships can get. I feel so lost and broken. So, depression cuts ties with your loved ones because it needs you to be alone and weak.
He is pushing you away, and I believe he does know that you care about him. Although your relationship and interactions may be a trigger, it is not the cause for depression. I started a thread once asking what people wanted their partner to do to support them. Rather, he may show signs of extreme fatigue, listlessness, social isolation, weight gain or loss, changes in sleeping patterns, or feelings of being overwhelmed. The fact that it was so spur-of-the-moment tells me that she's struggling. I wouldn't mind though if someone else felt like sharing their experiences, as I do feel really alone right now. He said he was going to have too much homework which later found out he went out with other friends.