You know that staying is wrong. So we always had problems in our relationship. We started dating when I was 15. We saw the same things with our parents. He would drink to a point where I did not recognize him. Talk about it You are not alone, far from it in fact, 1 in 3 women have been or will be domestically assaulted, and here are some more.
When the judge entered, he informed the court that he had read the file overnight. He was always sorry and said it would stop but really it just kept getting worse. Try not to justify or minimalize. He wouldn't let me go back to my dorm and made me come back to his house to where he was sleeping. The Prosecuting Attorney was furious. I had a long recovery time. But the fact of the matter is, not every guy is going to react the way you think they should or the way society tells them to.
Odds are not in your favor. He has already been to a counselor, and plans to continue to go. His actions may increase in frequency and become more violent. The 1st time we got into a arugment he slapped me. Neither one of you should be hitting the other.
I've been in a few violent relationships, but I've come out knowing a few things. Right now your best course of action would be to leave him alone since that seems to be what he wants. His brother his best friend passed away at 31 years old a month later. Have a great day, Dot! As he was driving he reached to the back seat hit me across my face a couple times and grabbed my hair and shook my head. But still, I forgave him. His wife had committed suicide because of my brother-in-law.
I guess I don't really understand violence. Hope she got raped in the penn. I had always been described as a strong independent women but with him, I was weak. Your inaction will cause him to feel more comfortable with his abuse. She felt like she had no where to turn.
Why did you feel the need to hit him in the first place? I actually wish that you could come back in 10 years time and say: Beline, you were wrong. I would like to echo the comments above and say it is not ok that you are made to feel this way by your partner and his behaviour is certainly not your fault. I think everyone deserves a second chance, especially if you love them, and people can change. You lost control and started something that he finished. But never has his fist hit me. At first I thought he was the most gentleman guy out there.
It's silly to say that you could hit your husband all day but he couldn't hit you back because he's bigger. Leaving the person in question has also been a popular answer. Living with or engaged within 6 months of meeting Does he display? My first thought is that this is a black and white issue and I have to leave him, but of course I love him and if there is a chance of saving this relationship I want to do it. He and his brother had disappeared. She should leave him, for both their goods. He promised it was only a one-time occurrence. The next day she chewed me out for not getting his side of the story his side was that he was talking to his other girlfriend on the computer and she caught him so he pushed her down and that she attacked him.
Determine what you want for your future. Once someone hits you like this, trust it won't stop. Does he constantly make you doubt your own self-worth? He is trying to get a sense of belonging and significance. All Content Copyright C DearCupid. He would drink until he was passed out on the bathroom floor naked. While I know this is a case of Domestic Violence by definition, it is not a typical case, and I don't think it's fair to rule out this being an isolated incident.
You are your best protection and worst enemy in this depends on what you choose. Female abusers frequently engage in violence in spite of being smaller - one way they do this is simply by using weapons or element of surprise, e. When we try to fix things, what usually happens is he'll say something I disagree with so I tell him it's not true. He looked at the knives so I tried to talk to him. We got into a huge arguement he start swearing at me as usually and went to walk out i followed him and stop infront of him at the door. Even that small animal will bite you in fear.
That was downright scary what happened to you. A female reader, , writes 26 January 2006 : i really feel for what you are going through. If you hit someone and knock them out, they can hit their head on something and die during the fall. Do not continue to maintain a relationship with him. . He blamed her for it.