I love the man who I thought I married. Up to now I was blocked on Skype but he still had me on his contact list. Thanks again for your help! I had a decent business where we lived and could not leave. Hi I find those same questions, does he think of me now he has clearly moved on with another woman I hear they are in love already as well!! This kind of thinking is simply cruel. The female malignant narcissist is no different; in fact, perhaps some of her most abusive tactics are deployed in the realm of female friendships. At one stage he took me out for dinner held my hand and declared he wanted to reconcile. I almost managed to break free a couple years ago but thanks to a therapist who was obviously not well versed in narcissism and who clung to religious values of marriage being a forever thing, I was convinced to give my husband a second chance.
Men are sometimes not that understanding. Keep talking, keep spreading the word. He would say, if I ask anymore questions, he was out of here. He of course cheated on me countless times, always denying it until his two grown daughters caught him redhanded. First of all I have never had anyone do that, not ever. After all the holiday festivities, he decided he was done and wanted a divorce, which is fine.
His cocaine addiction may have something to do with it. He dismissed it each time claiming it was beneath him. But they are too arrogant to pick up the phone. I always thought if I tried harder or did more I would finally get his love love or approval. He is staying with a friend as 7 months ago i found out he had been having an affair for 16 months and i kicked him out. Pathological liars do not change…this is the fact.
Just throwing my 2 cents in there…having now been divorced to what is in my opinion, a full blown narcissist for 4 yrs, thankfully. When you bring love into your life as a mother, you need to know that your child is safe and loved by your chosen partner as if that child was his own. Or worse… are you shit scared of your wife? One night, his female friend left a voice message and they were talking back and forth. Every conversation we have is frustrating and draining and leaves me feeling worthless and hopeless. I talk in short, clipped phrases.
I threw my hands into he air and said fine lets go on with the divorce and that is where we are at now. I can eventually do it again with Narc 2. This is adulation, adoration, admiration, and even negative attention. So hard to master something with no pattern or rule or obvious end. I see that you are already thinking about the problems and looking for ways to address them.
My little girls mean everything to me and as the primary caregiver before she left, I worry about their emotional state. This is my second Narc. I know that this is effecting every aspect of my life, my kids are suffering and I feel like I am dying inside. Manipulation: Using Others to Extend Oneself Some narcissists will use his or her romantic partner to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized ambitions, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws. Yet is so bloody charming and fabulous to anyone new meeting him.
If this is what your wife did, her problems are quite severe. While we are swept up in the maelstrom of confusion that being involved with a narcissist can cause, we accept things that go beyond our normal boundaries of what is agreeable. When I left I took his wedding ring and am now wearing it as a symbol of regaining my power back. Because having control over you gives them pleasure, every time you reach for them, you are providing Narcissistic supply. !!! This was after the night you had been out helping a mate do some removals said you would be back at tea time… then it was going to be 7ish and it ended up at 10pm…you then got pissed and sat in the chair that night whilst I was in bed saying you had picked the wrong sister….
I hope to one day be able to help others through their own journey out of the mire and to educate people about this horrific disorder that leaves others in such terrible states. In the beginning he used to compare everything i felt or did to those of his ex, who not only cheated on him but eventually broke up with him. He made it clear that he had some female friends from where he lived in another country, but that they were like sisters to him and could never do anything romantic with them. I've been with my boyfriend for almost seven years, and the first five years were nothing short of agreeable. I wrote them as a lesson to others kind of the way you have been doing and rooted in my own experience.