One of my favorite books is the 5 love languages of love n when I was done with it I try explaining it to him how we all have a different love language n in order to express a deeper love an individual needs to learn their spouse love language, n learn how to give that love to the spouse n not how we perceive it but how our spouse perceives it n what happen he totally shut me out! My evil sister in law would always put me in the spot in front of all their relatives, would attack me verbally, and my oh so loving husband would just sit there and not say a word. Yes I have told her I do what I can and have not been lucky enough to afford to stay home. I know she did it, I hired a P. Excerpted from The Politically Incorrect Wife © 2000-2002 by Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby. It's your choice if you want to baby him, but you should probably sit him down and tell him you will not continue supporting lazy behavior, no matter what his mother has done in the past. I didn't tell him the kind of things his mother said to me until we were maybe together for four years and I , to this day, feel like he didn't really believe me. I don't control the money, I don't drive our car, I don't cook even for self, I don't shop, because she insists she is better at such things, and will Brook no discussion of such, although insisting they are things she dislikes.
I am a good mother to my children. No wife has to put up with that kind of behavior, just know it's his problem; there's nothing you can do that would ever merit that treatment. But I am forever blocked and will never get to be a part of their lives. They play nasty power games and are incapable of genuine relationships based on kindness, compassion, and respect. Based on what you have said, we believe all three of you could have handled things differently.
I can't imagine going thru life like this. She wants my dh to run her here there and everywhere and expects him to jump when she shouts. Then we learned that he had BiPolar Disorder when our third child arrived and he took a turn for the worse, suffering from severe depression and became suicidal. I don't ever talk to his mother or go visit her anymore. The problem for us is his son lives in Indiana and mine lives in Texas. I have a plan to break free - I am heartened to read of others who do too. We had to make a living also I was standing by her son.
I threw out his clothes and left them on his Mothers drive. The entire time I was pushed by him to include his family on our wedding plans. If they rang when we were in the car together, he wouldn't take the call. Again I do not expect much from my husband … I married him for him not to use him or make him my personal errand man …. I earn more so i spend more on our mutual expenses.
I have suffered too but what does it mean that I am going to make my Dil play by my rules. They now see me as poor and worthless and ugly, few years ago they lost their home and I was helping my partner to make a better life for him and his family. I finally told my boyfriend his Mom will always be his Mom and he can see her but I don't want to be around her because I don't feel welcome. I'm sure she would not like it one bit if my husband said the same thing to her about her husband. At some point in the conversation, she even threatened me with calling an attorney to get visitation. I have spent time alone with my own mother-in-law, and she has a genuine love for her son; she believes that we need to think more in terms of him and me, less about what our parents think.
I thought I had the best mother in law but to my surprise the best pretender. I would suggest talking to him for a while before considering that though. He doesnt seem to want to try and repair their relationship, as I have made suggestions for them to go do something fun alone, so they could get to know each other. I tried therapy with my ex husband and he had to report to his mother after each session. So what can you do? I work in a factory 12 hour shifts, a 5 year old, do everything I can, and still have a mother in law who complained during my daughters birthday party about a sticky spot on the kitchen floor, the finger prints on the fridge, and her room having toys everywhere, then started cleaning. If all the while your Husband is alone with them he if he wants you he will eventually miss and wonder where you his Wife is and get rid of his family and come looking for you. We have been together for 2 years, married few months, but thing worsen.
A great part of our responsibility as parents is to teach our children how to be adults when they grow up. Thanks for letting me vent! This is a very short version. Additionally you men need to stop expecting sex from women when your relationship lacks any ounce of romance anymore. And saying weird-ass shit like I want to slap your ass, put butter your butt, poke you in the ear or even weirder sayings. My Mil always plays the victim she has suffered etc. She can bruise easily in some areas of her life — especially the places which involve the people she loves the most — like you.
Ask your husband to attend counseling with you. About a week away together where you bond and not think about paying bills should help you guys out. So before I blow steam at my partner, I need to remember that he may a victim of ignorance. He never held me and I cry and cry why me. She offered to pay for them, so I allowed her to do so.
I told him that he could take my daughter to see his father for two weeks. Its been only a year since my marriage but since Im very sensitive and I have no support, for my parents are in a different country I don't know what to do. Ignor her ley her be. That you teach them to be honest and true by your example. Really show emotion and he might start taking you seriously.