Would a very masculine male want to be in a relationship with a very feminine woman who would cheat, steal, be emotionally unstable? But I can see the attraction of the book and the philosophy for both sexes. Read again late November 2013: And I stand by the 4-star rating and review. Click on the cover image above to read some pages of this book! He is a bridge-builder between East and West, between ancient and modern wisdom traditions. If she is screaming and breaking dishes, your body must meet her energy. I found his writing to be extremely Chauvinistic bordering on a complete dislike and disrespect of women. The first common misconception seems to be that Deida is calling for a return to 1950's stereotypes of traditional male and female roles when nothing could be further from the truth. It was a perfect square made of 15 smaller squares, each cross-stitched in pastel blues and pinks and yellows.
Praise your woman Instead of tolerating your woman's moods of closure and complaint, open her moods with your skillful loving. But I still remember the cross-stitched squares perfectly today. It's hard for me to find words with which to express my appreciation and admiration for this unique gift. He is a founding member of Integral Institute, and has taught and conducted research at the University of California-San Diego School of Medicine, University of California-Santa Cruz, San Jose State University, Lexington Institute in Boston, and Ecole Polytechnique in Paris, France. His blunt simplicity in tackling the real issues men face when moving into their 'full man strength' - as my girlfriends and I call it - is as educational as it is entertaining. I feel like I'm a proper mix of both sides.
Now I'm not saying I don't understand why he did this. Maybe he changes farther on in the book? It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. The invitation is to rise above our mediocrity, to let go of making excuses for our own laziness, to stop apologizing for who we are, and to stop blaming others or our childhood for how we've become. David Deida gets it, like no one I've ever read, and he writes about it forcefully, honestly, and downright poetically. There was some good advice and then there were times when I had no idea what he was talking about. Live with your lips pressed against your fear, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.
But when all is said and done I think much of what the author says is, essentially, true. It's demeaning to both women and men. Feel your suffering so deeply and thoroughly that you penetrate it, and realize its fearful foundation. That said, most of the book deals with things in a manner that puts what it has to say in a context that doesn't require the reader to accept the cultural and religious elements, such as they are, to understand what is being said and to receive and apply many of the truths it has to say. Unadorned suffering is the bedmate of masculine growth.
This book is supercharged with spirituality and I knew that going in. Feeling slightly guilty I thought I would make it up by adding some additional titles on top of my first submission. The second is like it: love your neighbor as yourself. This is a dangerous and offensive thing to teach people. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships. David is in the dynamic living oral tradition of maverick spiritual teachers who, like free-jazz musicians, can riff directly on Reality, outside of established forms. Both forms of intercourse, sexual and worldly, require sensitivity, spontaneity, and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails.
Doubtful, but according to Deida a masculine energy can be strong enough to change this behaviour. And unfortunately, I think some of his concepts of women reinforce an unenlightened male stereotype and therefore help perpetuate those stereotypes. Chose a woman who i your complementary opposite: you will only be happy in intimacy if you choose a woman who is your sexual reciprocal as a partner. David Deida is such a person. What he's talking about is masculine and feminine energy and polarizing them in relationship for the purpose of bringing out the best in both partners.
Amazing read, all men should read this. And like Zen, the fruition of David's work is openness, compassion, and love. The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge¡ªand reward¡ªfor today¡¯s man: to unify heart and spine through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment. I cannot believe the high ratings of this book! In other words, the Corinthian believers are struggling to live selflessly. Rather than yielding in love to your loving, they will distract you, suck your energy, and draw you into endless complications, so that your life and relationship become an almost constant search for release from constraint. Never change your mind just to please a woman: you should always listen to your woman, and then make your own decision. Few are the books that discuss strong sexuality within strong spirituality, instead of tepid sexuality diluted by a mediocre spiritual stance.
If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. She is revealing your unconscious habits that prevent your fullest awakening in consciousness. With all this ministry opportunity we have, I am astonished at how neglected and overlooked this ministry opportunity is. If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose, he weakens himself, dis-services the universe, and cheats his woman of an authentic man who can offer her full, undivided presense. He focuses a lot energies trying to take a more holistic view of sex and view the polarities of men and women and how they can come into unison.
I stared at it for hours of my childhood because it sat above the baby grand piano at which I endured years of piano lessons. Can every man live his life this boldly and unapologetically? It's unsupported by scientific evidence. I have never, ever put down men as a group. However, I don't think that small amount of value derived from reading this is worth the large amount of unhelpful, if not harmful, misinformation that also come through in the writing. As others have pointed out, Deida has no real professional credentials to fall back on, and his official bio is vague. Dobbo Sydney 2018-07-22 true A Must read 5 I found that in reading this book if you are someone who has not found their purpose yet, you will struggle in the first part of the book, don't let that discourage you.