As I said previously I feel that she love's me and she's my friend and I have failed in so many points. It does not effect that part of the brain the way it does someone with a personality disorder. Because we love each other and loving someone means accepting their good, their bad and inbetween. And to hear him say- it our marriage? They tend to be very defensive. Both of you will ahve to do a lot of work. When you add this to the lies about the booze and gambling you probably have good reason to wonder what else he is doing without you knowing. I don't whether that's a testament to his ability to lie and manipulate, or just an indictment of my lawyer, who truly does seem to be totally unethical.
Well, it'd be completely different if it happened to him. And then you find out about Mr. So what is so important that they lie over it to us and then they don't care what they are doing to their marriage. As for if there's hope, well, that depends on how humble he can make himself. I never brought up what I was doing as I just wanted to replace the old perception with a new one. It's as if honesty is one of those values which we should follow only when no one would feel bad when confronted with truth.
I have definitely tolerated a lot of unacceptable behavior from my H and allowed a lot of boundaries to be flagrantly crossed. It makes me feel so much better, to know that i might not have just been blind to huge problems somehow! I've always felt that the solution to crime, and thoughtlessness itself, is for all of us to sacrifice our privacy. If he is more happy going out with his friends is it because its more fun to go out with his friends? I have been to jail twice due to domestic, him once; I am 56. He lies when he is hanging out with friends and various places he goes. Thank you so much to anyone who has any advice! He says its easier now- less confrontation, peace? I would like very much to have someone else in my life, but I cannot reconcile it with the vow I made to God on my wedding day. I explained that I knew this was a problem and was making a real effort to put up the devices and pay attention to her. But I'm not the kind of person who can generate hope out of nothing -- I have to have some realistic basis for my hope.
You may or may not yourself consider your husband scum. And if I had to, I could get health insurance now with my current employer it's just not an economical choice for us now. This post does not attempt to suggest to anyone what action they should take as far as staying with or leaving their spouse. When I went into labor he turned on me completely. I read the letter out loud to him, and he finally fessed up and told me the truth.
I tried to talk to this woman to ask her directly why she would destroy not only her own marriage but someone elses. That is much harder to take than if he had just simply told you the truth at any point before you found the incriminating letter. They may try to find things other people have done that they see as worse and try to make people focus on that. What kind of self worth and respect do you have? I was saying that my H used to be so wonderful, and he responded, You mean what you know about was wonderful. I found another phone in her pocket where she had been conspiring against the not so great with great grandmother of kids to put them in foster care. He wouldn't help me with mortgage payments on my home when I was critically ill at the beginning of our marriage so my house is in foreclosure. I've heard it explained that the only reason one spouse would reveal their indiscretion to the other is to make themselves feel better, to get it off their chest.
And besides, he's entitled to whatever he wants! I have to say I'm envious that your husband has made the progress that he has and doesn't seem to resent your remaining trust issues. I feel that honesty is essential to a marriage's safety and success. And begin to do what you want for you. Most of the time, when I do this, we simply discover that there was something my husband forgot about, or hadn't considered, and there's no unpleasantness, we just pick up and go forward from there. If you ignore a relationship for two years it withers like a garden would.
As much as I wanted to forgive them, and feel like I did and have, interacting with them was no longer the same. They have an excuse for everything they do. But apparently they do feel remorse. Every single woman my husband cheated with knew me. I just read an article about infidelity and the question of whether people can be faithful in marriage. This apparently makes the addiction get much worse, very fast.
She married a man not a kid that needs to be teached to live. Since his affair he is morose and angry when he's alone with me, but if we go out with friends, he seems happy during that time. I wouldn't have liked it if he did that to me. I have to find a way to survive this. None of these things are easy to get past, even individually. Many women who have affairs with married men do not. David, My question is What are the factors that lead to continual lying--especially with regards to money? I guess someone who would do this is just a selffish person who only thinks about their own pleasure and does not care how their actions negatively affect someone else.
There were a lot of ground rules and issues we discussed before I moved back in. Porn is pictures and movies. The other day I came home and he and his friend were playing some nerdy game, that is chess but with super heros characters. That woman sounds like a coward. I think I'm the first guy writing something here. He sabotages every time and manipulates the therapist, particularly females.